Equality My Ass – International Gender Days Aren’t

What did you do to celebrate International Men’s Day?

Nothing.

What?

Never heard of it?

But I bet you've heard of International Day of the Girl which was held last month, on October 11.

Yesterday was International Men’s Day (IMD) according to the United Nations Educational, Scientific and Cultural Organization (UNESCO), a specialized body of the United Nations to promote – among other things – gender equity in education, science and culture.

And it’s not as if International Men’s Day is new – according to UNESCO it’s been celebrated in Australia, The Caribbean, North America, Asia, Europe and Africa since it’s inception in Trinidad and Tobago in 1999.

I saw something briefly flash across the Twitter universe about IMD but that was it – one lone tweet from the UN.

International Day of the Girl on the other hand, was plastered in papers, broadcast on the television and radio newscasts, and made truly international headlines.

And you've probably heard of International Women’s Day – or you will when it gets just as much press as the International Day of the Girl on March 8.

All days of gender-specific celebration and awareness are organized by the exact same organization – UNESCO.

However, obviously, not all receives equal opportunity – pun intentional.

When International Women’s Day rolls around, every year, the media goes berserk to capture video, images and audio for their television, print and radio stories.

International Day of the Girl made all the major wire services, was carried locally here in all the big national papers, on the evening newscasts, and even was tweeted about repeatedly on Twitter.

But International Men’s Day – what a yawn – one lonely tweet, just to acknowledge it exists.

Last month, in this blog, we wrote about how International Day of the Girl is discriminatory against men, women and even little boys.

We are all human beings, and we shouldn't honour or celebrate our differences of any kind – that’s the foundation for any line of discrimination.

If we as a species are going to continue to grow and prosper in a world which is constantly getting harder to survive in, we need to pull together as a species, sharing our strengths, instead of highlighting the very things which makes us work apart.

Global warming, economic turmoil, war, famine, terrorism – none of these will ever be beaten if we continue a battle of the sexes, as these – and most issues affecting our survival – are not divided along gender, but span across all of humanity.

So what did I do to celebrate International Men’s Day?

Nothing.

Why would I want to celebrate a sexist day of division, when we really need to co-exist and work together?

International Day of the Girl? What About Gender Equity?

Today is International Day of the Girl – a day set aside to advocate for girl’s rights and raise issues of gender bias – according to those women running this annual event.

Isn't it interesting how in this world of equal rights, women are the only ones advocating for and raising issues about “gender bias?”

So it isn't any wonder that the only gender they advocate for is their own.

It takes both men and women to keep the world going – at least if we as a species want to continue to exist. As modern as science has advanced, the miracle of life occurs when a woman’s eggs are fertilized by a man’s sperm. The physical act of sex no longer need take place, thanks to test tubes, in vitro fertilization and other medical marvels, but so far, to continue on as a species, it takes both sexes.

So why do gender equity discussions only focus on one of our sexes – those with mammary glands?

Granted, over half a century ago, women and visible minorities in North America were treated as second-class citizens. They were given the low paying jobs the men in charge didn’t want. Often women – back then – were treated as sex objects, objectified, and poorly treated.

A lot has changed in the 50-plus years of the women’s movement, and the other politically-correct movements throughout our society, including just about every race, sexual orientation, religion, and anything else which makes us different from one another.

Employment equity programs have changed the face of the working world – now more than ever those that were discriminated against decades ago are now doing the discriminating.

Every time I see “we are an equal opportunity employer” at the bottom of a company’s tagline, I read that as “we’ll hire you, so long as you are not a white man.”

Employment equity programs were originally brought in to level the playing field, so that women and visible minorities were no longer discriminated against. Essentially the original idea behind them were if you have two equal candidates vying for the same position at a company, as a last resort, you’d hire the one that was either a woman, or a visible minority.

Problem is, as we see today, those employment equity policies have essentially created a workplace where white men are no longer welcome. No one should ever be hired based on their race, sex, or anything OTHER than their skills and experiences.

So the whole employment equity movement was flawed from the start, and here we are today, where on average white men are dropping out ofthe work force, because they can’t find work. They are just giving up.

You’d give up to if you saw everyone working at the places you were applying too didn’t have anyone like you.

I've worked for some of the biggest companies in the financial sector – including American Express, KPMG, and BMO Bank of Montreal and all of these I was shocked – no horrified to see how they all had wrongly used employment equity policies to create workplaces which were anything BUT equal.

American Express’ team I was on of about 200 people was 90 percent Chinese, and 10 percent other. That does NOT reflect the population of Canada, or even America.

When I was working for one of the largest banks in Canada, BMO Bank of Montreal, the team I was on had two white men on staff, while the rest of the female-led team was all women.

The business unit for that team, The Institute for Learning, which ironically fell under the Human Resources department, was about 90 percent women, and 10 percent men.

Yes, in North America, there are more women than men proportionately in our society. However, what I experienced at BMO Bank of Montreal was hardly representative of the Canadian society which it serves.

Clearly women don’t need a gender equity day all their own. Though the real point I’m trying to make is no one should have a day to promote their own gender, sexual orientation, race, creed, religion or anything else unique to them, or their own group.

If we are to really achieve full equality for all, no one group should ever be celebrated outside of the whole.

That was and still is the major flaw in all politically correct movements, and corporate job equity programs. By creating policies, procedures and practices which advocate any one group above all else, you discriminate against anyone that falls outside that group.

That’s why the pendulum has swung the other way – now women and visible minorities no longer suffer discrimination in corporate North America – which is good -- however everyone that is not a woman or a visible minority suffers discrimination.

That’s why the tagline “XYZ company is an equal opportunity employer” means “white men need not apply.”

And that’s as wrong as wrong can be. 

On Cats, Dogs and Social Networking

Why is it that many women post pictures of cats online on their social networking sites?

On Twitter, Google+, Facebook, Pinterest, even YouTube, I see cute cats with humorous slogans, mean cats in threatening postures, sly kitties taking advantage of their owners, cats, cats, and more CATS!

And I’ve noticed all of these are posted by women.

Maybe I’m biased ‘cause I’m more of a dog person than a cat person, but in a completely unscientific poll – judging from the numerous social networking sites I belong too – I’d say there is a definite slant towards posts about cats to dogs, and all the posts about cats are from women.

What’s the fascination with felines by females? And why isn’t there an equal amount of posts about dogs from men?

I don’t mind cats. I don’t adore cats. I can live with or without cats.

You can train a cat. Just unlike a dog which comes when you call his or her name, cats will only come if they want to come when you call them.

Cat’s have attitudes. Dogs are loyal. Cats nudge and meow when they want attention, other than that, they often just want to be left alone. Dogs love attention, even if they didn’t bark or jump begging for it.

Dogs may beg at the dinner table for scraps.

Cats never beg for anything.

You can put a leash on a dog, and take him or her to the park to play ball, Frisbee or to catch a stick.

Most cat’s don’t go on leashes, and I’ve never seen a cat catch a Frisbee and bring it back to their owner.

Some let their cat out at night, to play with the other cats in the ‘hood.’ If your dog accidentally gets out, you’ll spend hours looking for him, though many often find their way back.

Dogs help the blind find their way, sniff out dangerous and banned substances at airports, and have been part of police forces worldwide to catch bad guys, find lost children in the woods, and locate survivors of plane crashes and avalanches. 

I’ve never heard of a cat joining an elite team of search and rescuers.

Dogs usually play heroes on television and in the movies. From Lassie and the Littlest Hobo which always brought lost souls together, to Santa’s Little Helper on The Simpson’s very first episode which saved Christmas, even to Snoopy , the cartoon dog that often saved Charlie Brown from self-embarrassment.

Most of the cats on television and movies are self-centered, egotistical and evil. From the Austin Powers movies, Dr. Evil’s pet is Mr. Bigglesworth, a cat only a villain could love. Cartoon cat Garfield is always trying to get fed, even if it means getting his dog buddy Odie into trouble. Even lovable Morris from the classic Tender Vittles cat food commercials was so focused on getting his ‘Vittles’ that he’d ignore even the most amusing situations occurring around him as he ran past to his feeding dish.

Not that all cats are mean, and all dogs aren’t. Just ask the crazy cat lady down the street.